How do you begin rebuilding when several parts of life fall apart at once?

Gather the scattered pieces without demanding an immediate solution. A simple
triage can give each one a truthful place:

• Needs attention today: food, a safe place to stay, continuing harm or a
  deadline with serious consequences.
• Needs another person: a call to someone trusted, practical help, skilled
  guidance or company for a hard appointment.
• Can wait: choices that feel urgent because they are visible but will not
  worsen if left for a few days.
• Cannot be restored: a loss that needs to be grieved rather than treated
  as a task you failed to complete.

Now look for connections. One lost income can produce transport, housing and
money problems that appear separate. One relationship ending can remove a
home, a routine and a source of help at once. Seeing the shared cause prevents
every consequence from becoming a new accusation against you.

Notice what remains as well. A skill is still yours. Someone answers the phone.
A document can be recovered. A temporary arrangement is possible. None of
these cancels the loss; each identifies capacity that can help with one piece.

Choose the piece that protects that capacity or makes another choice possible.
It might be arranging somewhere safe for the week, writing a bare record of
money coming in and going out, eating before making a difficult call or asking
someone to sit with you while you sort urgent papers. Small here does not mean
unimportant. It means possible while much of your attention is already taken.

Some breaks reveal information: a plan depended on one fragile source of
support, a need had gone unattended or something trusted was not safe. You can
use that knowledge without calling the loss good or necessary.

The pieces may still be scattered at the end of the day. If one urgent need is
held, one request for support has been made and one decision has been allowed to
wait, rebuilding has already acquired an order that the crisis did not provide.