“If it can't be solved, then it is not a problem, but it is a fact of life that I need to embrace or accept. It is stressful to try to solve or change things that are not changeable.”
by Innocent Mwatsikesimbe — from The Vision, chapter 57
The walk-through
Not everything that hurts is a problem. Some things are simply facts of life, and telling the two apart changes how heavy your days feel. Innocent’s test is blunt: “If it can’t be solved, then it is not a problem, but it is a fact of life that I need to embrace or accept. It is stressful to try to solve or change things that are not changeable.”
When he got the hang of the distinction, he was surprised how many pointless worries and wasted actions fell away — like a load lifted from his shoulders.
The payoff is double. Acceptance brings peace of mind about what can’t change, and it frees your full attention for the problems that actually can be solved. Effort goes where effort works.
AI-composed from Innocent's text, reviewed and refined by Innocent.
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